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TYPES OF BEHAVIOR |
PERCENTAGE OF COADDICTS |
| 1. Collusion |
Joined addict to present united front. |
71 |
| |
Kept secrets to protect addict. |
66 |
| |
Lied to cover up for addict. |
53 |
| |
Became hypersexual for addict. |
37 |
| 2. Obsessive preoccupation |
Focused totally on addict to avoid feelings. |
67 |
| |
Constantly thinking about addict’s behaviors and motives. |
62 |
| |
Checked addict’s mail, purse, briefcase, etc. |
58 |
| |
Forgetful. |
57 |
| 3. Denial |
Denied personal intuitions. |
83 |
| |
Kept overly busy and overextended. |
72 |
| |
Believed I could eventually change addict. |
68 |
| |
Totally denied the problem. |
43 |
| 4. Emotional turmoil |
Emotions were out of control. |
79 |
| |
Went on.emotional binges. |
78 |
| |
Experienced free-floating shame and anxiety. |
74 |
| |
Always had a crisis or problem. |
63 |
| 5. Manipulation |
Played martyr, hero, or victim roles. |
92 |
| |
Used sex to manipulate or patch disagreements. |
61 |
| |
Failed efforts to control sexual acting out of partner. |
61 |
| |
Made threats to leave but never followed through. |
54 |
| 6. Excessive responsibility |
Blamed myself. |
75 |
| |
Believed if I changed, addict would stop. |
62 |
| |
Took responsibility for addict’s behavior. |
62 |
| |
Created dependency situations where I was indispensable. |
59 |
| 7. Compromise or loss of self |
Gave up life goals, hobbies, and interests. |
61 |
| |
Acted against own morals, values, beliefs. |
59 |
| |
Changed dress or appearance to accommodate addict. |
53 |
| |
Accepted addict’s sexual norms as my own. |
43 |
| 8. Blame and punishment |
Increasingly more self-righteous and punitive. |
64 |
| |
Destructive to others. |
54 |
| |
Homicidal thoughts or feelings. |
36 |
| |
Had affairs to punish the addict or prove worth. |
21 |
| 9. Sexual reactivity |
Numbed my own sexual needs and wants. |
68 |
| |
Rarely felt intimate during sex. |
66 |
| |
Made excuses not to be sexual. |
43 |
| |
Changed clothes out of sight of addict. |
34 |
